Personal Stories – Luz

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Luz is a 32 year old South American mother of two children, who came to the United States three years ago to join her children’s father.

Luz is a 32 year old South American mother of two children, who came to the United States three years ago to join her children’s father. Luz was referred to Family CT by a New Haven Court Advocate following a physical altercation between Luz and her partner. Luz had contacted the police and her partner had been arrested. Luz told Family CT that her partner had abused her emotionally and physically since she came to the US. She reported that she felt like the “most little person in this world”. She stated that in her native home, she was a completely different woman, very independent, self-confident and happy, but since coming to the US she has been sad, insecure and fearful. Luz explained that she had never experienced domestic violence before and that this experience, in an unknown country where she had no support or friends, was very traumatic for her.

As a result of her Family CT counseling, Luz gained an understanding of her partner’s pattern of coercive power and control, how it affected her attempts to leave the relationship and how it influenced her children’s behavior. She began to feel less isolated, improved her unstable financial situation and improved her ability to communicate in English. She began to set limits with her children, was consistent with discipline and routines and she began dedicating time just to play and be with them. By the end of services, Luz’s daughter was attending a Head Start Program and no longer withdrawn and her son was able to curb his aggression and learned positive ways to express his emotions and needs. Luz has established herself and her children in their own apartment and she is well on her way to self sufficiency.